The last year has taught us that nothing is certain, not even death. Because before the pandemic, in death there were many late rite traditions that we could count on but aren’t possible right now. Due to gathering restrictions and people’s own health concerns, funerals and memorials aren’t happening like they used to not that long ago. Even if you plan a safe memorial many people won’t be able to participate like they normally would.
These changes are for the greater good, but in the moment it doesn’t feel that way for someone who has lost a loved one and wants to connect with others. The pandemic has not changed that need, but it has changed the way that need is fulfilled.
Plan a Time to Video Chat
Right now, the next best thing to being in-person together is video chatting. It’s not a substitute for having the person there with you to hug you and console you one-on-one, but it’s better than not seeing the person at all.
With a video chat you can still at least get the nonverbal communication, which is actually a larger part of communication than the words that are spoken. Some experts have estimated that nonverbal communication, including body language and facial expressions, make up over 90% of communication.
Send a Handwritten Note
These days it’s becoming increasingly more rare to see handwriting. We live in a digital world where almost everything is typed out or online, to the point signatures are being written with our fingers on a screen rather than with pen and paper.
Receiving a handwritten note is extremely personal. It’s the person’s physical imprint as well as their most intimate thoughts. A handwritten note is the type of connection that’s needed in the moment, so take the time to send a thoughtful letter that expresses your sorrow for their loss.
Offer to Take on Part of the Planning
Sometimes the best way you can be there for someone who is grieving is by simply relieving some of their burden. Even very small tasks can make a huge difference. And when someone passes away there are many tasks that have to be handled beyond the memorial.
Even if you can’t be there with your loved one, you can still help them get through the process by offering to take on part of the planning. Ask what they need help with that you can do from your location. For example, they may need help writing the obituary or letting others know about the memorial. Or you could work on creating a video collage for the memorial using photos you get from family and friends.
There are lots of ways that you can be of assistance so there’s one less thing your loved one has to worry about.
Send Food and Essentials
Losing a loved one can make normal, everyday activities feel impossible. Even the simple act of making a meal seems like more work than it’s worth. But these are the times when people need nourishment.
Sending food is a kind gesture that won’t go unnoticed. The other thing about food is it can have a special place in our memory from past holiday gatherings and dinner parties. You may want to bring a dish that’s reminiscent of a dinner you had together. In addition to the memory, the tastes and aromas can help take their mind off things, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
The team at Green Cremation Texas is here for you when you need us most. We can provide guidance that makes the process much easier and less stressful.
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